"Dating Anonymity Really IS All
It's Cracked Up to Be"

Maintaining dating anonymity while you’re dating online is paramount. Eventually (and hopefully sooner rather than later) you’re going to meet people offline for dates. Thus begins an acceptable time to begin exchanging more details about your personal life – even then you still want to remain a little wary and tread carefully until you feel fully comfortable and trust their intentions.

But back to our original point: there is no need to immediately give anyone a cheat sheet of information about yourself when you first connect online.

You don’t know them.

You don’t know anything about them no matter how drawn to them you may feel.

Yes, we get it, you may have a “connection” and “so many things in common,” but seriously, take baby steps.

Perfect Match? Who Says?
It can be oh-so-tempting to start divulging very personal details in order to develop a closer relationship with someone right away even though you’re separated by cyberspace. But would you start telling some random dude on the street what college you went to, the name of your dorm, your major, your roommate’s name, your graduation year, your first job? These facts may seem innocuous, but all of these statistics put together create a map to even more personal information about you. And if someone wants to know more, they’ll find a way.

We’re not trying to scare the heck out of you. No, that’s not true. You should be scared. Have you seen To Catch a Predator? Yeah, that’s what we thought.

You can’t be too cautious these days. We want to make sure you’re taking this online dating adventure seriously by stressing dating anonymity. Heinous, predatory crimes happen to good, well-meaning people every day, not to mention other undesirable situations like identity theft. Once you start interacting with others online, anything can happen.

We want you to enjoy your online dating experience and stay safe in your own home. Your online dating safety and security are crucial. You can’t be too careful about putting your whole life out there in cyberspace. We fully endorse online dating anonymity.

We can hear the naysayers now, insisting that remaining anonymous for too long online is tantamount to dishonesty. We disagree. You don’t want to be anonymous? Give ‘em your first initial so they have something to call you by, but don’t be giving out all your digits and personal email addresses – online dating sites have built-in precautions (like anonymous email portals) to provide you with a high level of security (yet another sign that what we’re saying here is true, and all in your best interest).

Frankly, you shouldn’t be developing any kind of lengthy online relationship with anyone – the real dating happens offline, when you’ve met in person, experienced each other’s vibes, smelled his cologne, caught a whiff of her body lotion, that kind of stuff. That’s reality.

And we’re pretty sure reality is where you want to be. So pretty please take our not-so-subtle push and embrace dating anonymity.

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