"Insecurity is Not a Life Sentence -
You Can Get Paroled!"

The biggest love-suck of all time is insecurity. The entire goal of Dating Inspiration Online (DIO) is to help you body-slam those doubts into a million little pieces. Think he doesn’t like you? Blam! Think she won’t go out with you? Smack! Ping, pow, zowee! Kaboom!

 

We’re not superheroes, but we at DIO are the masked crusaders of a dating revolution. It’s time for you to say buh-bye to self-imposed emotional and mental vulnerabilities and hello to this mantra: Embrace the flaws!

 

Insecurity is made up of many categories, including self-sabotage, being a relationship martyr, being jaded, perfectionism, and neediness. Insecurity is a fine mish-mash of the best and worst of you magnified a million times. So before we can help you find someone who loves you, we have to help you love yourself! And the first thing you need to accept is that you don’t have to be insecure forever. We don’t expect to turn shy guys and gals into social gods and goddesses overnight, but we do plan to teach you a thing or two about dating savvy.

 

Now, we’ve said it before and we’ll say it again: “I’m not worthy!” was only amusing when Wayne and Garth spewed it all over peoples’ shoes. The beauty mark that you want to adopt is not self-deprecation but confidence! You’re a hottie, a catch, the best thing since sliced bread. Yeah, you. Y-O-U. But there are some things that are getting in the way. See if any of the junk food below is on your plate, and clogging up your chances at love: 

• I’m scared of being hurt, lied to, cheated on, or getting my heart broken.
• I don’t want to believe someone likes me only to discover they don’t.
• I’m afraid of being used, rejected, or looking stupid.
• I have too much baggage.
• It’s too hard to trust someone else.
• I’m unattractive – too heavy or too old or too weighed down.

You know what the above list is full of? Excuses. You have talked yourself into believing that opportunities for love just aren’t meant to be for you and that’s baaaaaad. Here are some more excuses… have you uttered them?

• I’m too busy.
• All the good ones are taken.
• It’s easy in the beginning but the spark always dies.
• A relationship is just too much work.
• I hate first dates.
• No one wants a real relationship and everyone is scared of commitment.
• Online dating is for desperate losers.
• I should be able to meet someone the “normal” way, not online.
• I’m working on myself right now.

We could fill pages and pages with lists of excuses. But these are some of the most common ones we hear from people who have just plain lost hope and given up. These are the things we hear from people who have great insecurity about dating and love. We implore you – do not give up!

Do you believe you deserve love? We believe you deserve it.

Do you worry what others will think of you? So what? The only opinion that matters is what you think of yourself.

Do you let others influence you? If you’re listening to friends who’ve had bad experiences with online dating, don’t allow their complaints to taint your hopes for that avenue. Keep the tales of others separate from your own. Don’t discount any opportunity for love until you’ve tried it yourself. 

Do you believe someone could like you? Like has to come before love. So baby steps begin here. Insecurity is a mind game more than anything else, and its results are manifested through your words and actions. It’s time to learn how to control the information you’re fed – including the details we give you – so that you use what works best for you to your advantage. Don’t pass “go” – look in the mirror now!

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