"Profile tips for men: The 4 dos and don'ts for creating an online profile that'll have women flocking your way"

Our profile tips for men begin simply enough: use words. Yeah, you heard us. She wants to read about your goods (no, not those goods) and what you have to offer her. She wants to know about y-o-u. Most women don’t give a hoot about your sports car, your sound system, or your video games – and pictures of you with said items isn’t impressive. It’s actually a little pathetic and desperate (just keepin’ it real, fellas).

There are plenty of men out there who aren’t getting the kind of responses they want from women online (they obviously haven’t consulted DIO’s online dating profile tips for men). If you’re one of them, it’s time to find out why.

Profile Tips for Men – #1
DO consider her point of view.
Looks are important to women, but not nearly as important as they are to you. Think about it – you want to see a woman’s picture before you’re willing to walk into a situation blind. Are we right? (Oh, by the way, even though you’re reading about profile tips for men, don’t worry. We have profile tips for women too.)

Well, women are most attracted initially to your emotional and mental depth. Might sound corny, but it’s true. Pictures matter too but, above all, they want to know that you’ve got a heart, a soul, and something to offer them besides brawn or baby blues. If you’re not descriptive about yourself when writing your online profile, a woman can’t “see” you. No verbal “photo” and she’ll have a hard time being attracted to you.

For example, let’s say the first time you meet a woman she’s on the other side of a curtain. You’d be wondering, “What color hair does she have? How tall is she? How big are her boobs?” Wouldn’t that curtain interfere with your attraction to the woman? Well, lack of information is a woman’s curtain.

A woman needs to know significant details about you. So get specific. Instead of, “I love football,” tell her, “I’m a diehard fan of the Pittsburgh Steelers – my brothers and I have gone to at least one game every season for the past 20 years.” If you want her to want you, then tell her about yourself. Why make it difficult for her to feel any chemistry for you when a potentially hot connection is only a few sentences away?

Profile Tips for Men – #2
DON’T fake romance.
(Psst… this is one of our most important profile tips for men – and crucial in dating and relationships as well. Don’t set the bar so high that you can’t maintain your own mojo. No fault of your own, but you’ll just disappoint her if you fail.)
Women love romance, but most of them are not suckers for insincerity (and if they are, we need to be having some talks with these oblivious women). In the simplest terms, don’t be cheesy. By all means, please avoid lines like, “I want someone to keep me warm at night,” or, “I’m your knight in shining armor.” Gag. Don’t take every line you’ve heard in a romantic comedy and stuff it into your profile. Many women will see right through this ploy and will not be impressed.

If you are a romantic at heart, then let it come through. But unless you’re truly adept at the schmoozing, don’t try to fake being something you’re not. If you honestly enjoy opening doors and making sure her wine glass is full, then say so. But talking like this in your profile because you think that’s what women want to hear is only going to lead to a bad match, and a disillusioned, unhappy woman. And you don’t want to be on the receiving end of that.

You can actually score the most points by redefining romance. And you know how you do this? By being yourself. Describe your perfect date… specifically. Don’t be generic and say you want to laugh a lot and just enjoy each other. Yawn. Take the time to consider how you’d make a woman happy on a date – name specific places, activities, sounds, sights. 

If you want to test out some language that you think might toe the line between tasteful and over-the-top, never hesitate to ask a female friend if it makes her squirm. Want to know how to understand a woman? Ask a woman.

We know you like your how-tos in 100 words or less, but don’t stop now! Only two more dating profile tips for men to go…

Profile Tips for Men – #3
DO mean what you say.
Lying gets you nowhere. Tall tales, stretched truths, it’s all a load of bull that women will see through eventually (if not immediately). Don’t make up qualities about yourself or insert fluff that you think a woman wants to read just to make yourself more attractive. Avoid creating a laundry list of attributes. You can eliminate any facts that she can read in another portion of your profile (e.g., height, marital status, etc.).

When you’re writing your profile, you’ve got a huge opportunity to give a woman concrete details about yourself. For example, don’t just say you like 1970s rock. Explain how you feel about that kind of music or tell her why it strikes a chord with you. Example: “Hearing Led Zeppelin reminds me of days when I’d hang out in my parents’ basement, jam on my electric guitar, and imagine my name up in lights (still working on that, by the way).”

It’s a good thing to make yourself stand out from the sea of other faces online – don’t neglect to show a woman how you’re unique and different. Being specific also reduces misunderstandings. Her interest might be piqued if you state that you love animals, but if your idea of “animals” includes creatures with scales while her definition includes only animals that bark, potential for compatibility has already encountered a little snag.

Oh, and one more thing. Though honesty is extremely important in your online dating profile, talking about certain issues immediately is inappropriate. Please, for the love of all that’s holy, don’t dish about what you like to do sexually or ways that you would like to sexually please a woman. There’s a time and a place for that kind of talk, fellas. And it sure as hell isn’t in your online dating profile.

Profile Tips for Men – #4
DON’T be lazy.
(This might be number four in our profile tips for men, but most women would likely rank it right up at the top – so pay attention.)
You get one shot to impress a woman. If you look at your half-finished online dating profile and think, “This is good enough for now. I’ll write more later,” you’re fooling yourself. Don’t count on a woman returning to your profile at another time to see if you’ve updated your description.

No woman gets a strong desire to write to someone who merely says, “I’m a nice guy. I’ll tell you more later when I have time.” Bo-ring. Frankly, female online daters have told us that they feel most men don’t take online dating seriously. If your profile says nothing more than, “Contact me if you’re interested,” you’ve got some major work to do. Think of it this way: Would you walk up to a woman at a party and say, “Hey, let me know if you’re interested in me. I’ll be over there waiting for your answer”? Yeah, we didn’t think so. So why would you do it online? That’s essentially the message you’re sending when you wink at her, send a one-line email, or don’t bother doing anything with your profile.

This rule also stands for the photos you post on your profile. So many women have told us that they are turned off by the creepy guy who takes a photo of himself without a shirt. (This should actually be one of our profile tips for men all on its own, but we’re not going for full humiliation… at least not at the moment.) If you saw an attractive woman at a bar, would you tear your shirt off before approaching her to say hello? Laughable, right? Be appropriate and remember, just because you want to see naked flesh doesn’t mean she wants to see it.

The hard and fast rule is this: if you wouldn’t do something face-to-face, don’t do it online.

As we mentioned in the beginning, women fall in love with words, but we know that you’re not necessarily a huge fan of them so we’ve kept our profile tips for men as short as we could. And, in case you think we’re bossing you, we’re not – we’ve covered what you want too in our profile tips for women. Read ‘em and believe us – we know what we’re talking about.

Oh, and one more thing. Please do a favor to all women – don’t be a creep.