"The Bachelor Women - Will They Never Learn?"
"10 Incredible Dating Don'ts Exposed!"

It doesn’t matter what season of The Bachelor it is or which guy is up for grabs. What every single installment of the show has in common (besides the hilarious Chris Harrison) are the women. They may look different but they all have one (or more) crazy behaviors lurking just beneath the surface.

We’re not saying they’re all train wrecks. After all, you get to be old enough and everyone has a past – that’s a good thing. It means you’ve lived life. But when you let your past invade your present, then you’re only screwing your own future. 

So let’s try and learn something from The Bachelor. If you stay away from the following behaviors you’ll be less likely to become a woman who gets tagged with, “No wonder she’s single.”

1. Playing games

"You can’t kiss me until… We can’t have sex until… Why don’t you try to guess what I’m thinking…” Yawn. Don’t play games like this with a guy; especially don’t tease him about your willingness to engage in anything physical. He’s only human – dangling a carrot (whether it’s a kiss, sex, or something else) will just make him confused and irritated. And, frankly, if you’re with a guy who’s interested in settling down and having a relationship, he won’t waste his time on someone who seems more determined to play coy than play house. 

2. Ultimatums

“If you can’t promise me a rose, I’m going to leave.” Problem is, the bachelor might just say, “There’s the door. Have a nice life.” Ultimatums, if they don’t make a man shut down entirely, will often produce an undesirable outcome for you. If you can’t handle the positive or the negative result of the outcome, don’t issue it – you’re not going to make him chase after you. He’ll take your declaration at face value and you’ll be left empty-handed.

3. Manipulation 

He’s not going to go to the trouble of sifting through your psycho-babble and confusing statements to figure out what it is you really want. If you convey that you’re not interested or act nonchalantly in an attempt to intrigue him, you’re only shooting yourself in the foot. The Bachelor (and men in general) are literal creatures – so speak your mind, don’t speak in riddles.

4. Jealousy 

When you just start dating someone, you have no claim on them whatsoever other than what’s already growing in your heart. And that sucks, but it’s the truth. No laws have been laid down, no rules put in place, no declarations stated, or rings exchanged. Getting jealous of who else he spends his time with and whether or not he’s kissing them will only have you going round and round inside your own head trying to figure out where you went wrong. It’s called dating. Date. Enjoy. Stop focusing on him. 

5. Being obsessive

One date does not a relationship make. Loving how a man looks does not mean he’s destined to be yours. Knowing every detail about him because of your online research is not an indication that you are a match made in heaven. The man in front of you is not your last shot at true love, a marriage, and kids. When you obsess about one person, that’s what your life becomes. And you become the living, breathing, sweating, gnarly example of one of the biggest dating don’ts: desperation.

6. Falling in love too soon 

We know it can feel like you’re in love with him after one smile, one especially passionate kiss, one extravagant date, but you’re not in love with him… you’re in love with the idea of loving him. You might even been in lust. Check yourself. Note that you had a spectacular date with someone and you’re enjoying his company and can’t wait to get to know him better, but hold on to your heart for a little while longer. There’s something to be said for the romantic nature of a whirlwind romance, but they’re not the norm.  

7. Pursuing him

It may seem like the only way you’re going to get the attention of The Bachelor, or whatever guy you want, is to hunt him down like a lion, but remember, you’re supposed to play the lamb. Guys get off on pursuing you; that’s how they become invested in you and in your potential relationship with each other. Taking that away from him is to take away a very integral part of the guy-girl dynamic. We know sometimes it’s tough to hold back and you just want to let your feelings be known, but trying to steal him away from another woman or doing something over-the-top to get his attention will make you look desperate, not worthwhile.

8. Trying too hard  

You love everything he loves! Omigosh! You have so much in common! Omigosh! Your favorite color is blue too! Omigosh! You usually prefer brunettes? Well, I’m not a natural blonde! Seriously, soul mates aren’t carbon copies of each other. Believe us, he’ll be more interested in you if there are some obvious differences in your likes and dislikes, hobbies and passions. Be your own woman and stop trying to fit into a mold that you think he desires.

9. Using your body instead of your brain

Sex appeal is all well and good, but busting out the always-gets-results cleavage or jumping into a hot tub on date one are truly something that only makes for good TV. The intimate and physical side of your relationship should come a little later. When you’re just getting to know someone, the situation doesn’t need to be fast-forwarded like it is on The Bachelor. Use your brain, have conversations, don’t go for lip-locking, tongue-wrestling, and whatever else goes on amid those steaming jets of the hot tub.

10. Not being assertive

Now this may seem to conflict with “don’t pursue him more than he’s pursuing you,” but being the shy woman in the corner when there are a ton of other females catching his eye means you’ll remain in the corner. Unnoticed. Alone. Feeling sorry for yourself. Or freaked out beyond your own mind. You have to have a voice and show a man that you’re interested in him – flirt, smile, catch his eye. Just don’t try to shove the whole thing down his throat (see point number eight).

Isn't it interesting that The Bachelor offers women a mirror to look into? We think so. Whether you watch The Bachelor or not, this dating advice is gold. Read it. Follow it. And if you don't believe us, Tivo those Monday-night episodes for further proof. The women who engage in these tactics don't stick around very long. 

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